Comments on: When in Nags http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/ Wed, 27 Feb 2019 12:09:32 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.10 By: Mukta http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-90 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 19:59:27 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-90 Thank you 🙂 your support means a lot

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By: Mho http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-71 Fri, 28 Oct 2016 15:19:48 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-71 Brilliant article, both of you.
But Radhika , the way you tackled “Jack’s smirking revenge” ( what a player) manages to explain, in five short paragraphs, exactly what is wrong with this country. Kudos! 🙂

Definitely something more concrete should also be done- something beyond the power of ink,well, keyboards.
But this is as good a starting point as any.
I hope you guys carry on with your efforts to bring this issue up, change the situation near your college, and perhaps start the ball rolling.
There will be men (and women) who will do their very best to bring you down, but there will always be those who shall be brave enough to light the fire.

Good luck!

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By: Radhika http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-60 Tue, 27 Sep 2016 13:53:12 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-60 Okay first of all wow. I am happy you commented, because i know these sentiments are always lurking beneath the surface and people are just too scared to come out and say it. And so thank you for saying what others cant’ (even though you did it in a totally gutless way).

So just to be clear M.G. Road is not better, I mean Sweden is only barely better. And like i’ve said sexual harassment is not some uneducated backward man’s affliction and I have explicitly rejected the idea that there is some inherent link between the two.

But getting to the point, and this is no longer talking about nagarbhavi, I do not think tradition is something that needs to be respected if it still believes in notions that are sexist, degrading and demeaning to women. If my wearing short clothes hurts the sentiment of ‘orthodox people’ (lets buy into your idea of them) thats okay, I want to continue hurting them. Because in their world view, my identity as an equal does not exist. If their faith involves dictating what women can and cannot wear and do, who they can sleep with, whether they can work, whether they can leave the house, who they can marry, then I do not care how many times I insult their faith.

Except if your tradition believes that those who reject it need to be raped then you are a big part of the problem.

And coming to nags, do you really think the drunk man who groped me was doing it because his tradition was getting hurt, no, they are doing it because they were brought up in a society which fed into their ugliest side and and gave them a sense of entitlement over women and their bodies which allowed them to do that. If people think sexual harassment is okay, they can give you million reasons for doing it, rapes during conflicts don’t happen because the army has a tendency to rape, it’s because conflicts happen in a patriarchal world just like traditions exist in a patriarchal world. So please don’t prescribe any higher intentions to a bunch of goons.

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By: Jack's smirking revenge http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-57 Mon, 26 Sep 2016 07:56:08 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-57 I s’pose the only alternative is relocating NLS to M.G. Road (or nearby areas). That way the pre-eminent ladies of NLS wouldn’t have to change clothes to go out and will be saved by verbal harassment and lewd gestures (let’s be optimistic).

You want to talk about feminism, sexism, gay rights and freedom of expression while hurting the sentiments of those orthodox people, whom you bash, criticize and make fun of. “Oh..you go to temple..that’s sick!” And you believe that those traditional folks out there would forget these attacks on their faith and will worship you instead? No wonder, they justify raping as a ‘lesson’.

Let’s not just blame the Nags (another of your useless patronizing term) and think of why you are averse to the rural India, to the uneducated, to those who don’t speak English. You want to be respected, first respect your elders, your teachers and your tradition!

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By: Bitchface http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-54 Sat, 24 Sep 2016 08:53:58 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-54 Everyone knows about the sexual harassment faced by everyone both inside and outside college. All I’m saying is this is weak, need better things out there and anything trying to achieve an impact or consensus needs to be pertaining to something more conclusive or redressable or anything.

But, sure.

Bitchface out

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By: Radhika http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-52 Fri, 23 Sep 2016 21:21:00 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-52 Also imagine if I suggested we do a ‘take back the night march,’ something a lot of groups are doing across India (look at pinja tod- they are doing one as we speak). Do you really think people would agree? No one cares enough. Writing articles like this which merely point out the problem and try to make people care about an issue like this go a long way in creating consensus for what can later amount to real action.

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By: Radhika http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-51 Fri, 23 Sep 2016 21:13:08 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-51 Hey Bitchface,
What you are saying would make sense if sexual harassment was an issue on everybody’s mind all the time and we were all doing something about it or at least talking about it. Except coming in as a first year till my third year I have never seen women even mention this frustrating part of our lives. No matter how bad it gets. No one talks about it, no one cares, many men don’t even know it happens. Which is why when this was published a lot of people came to us saying this had to be written for no other reason than our experiences need to be out there.

Rape culture is built on a culture of ignorance about the problem and a culture of silence because women feel their problems aren’t valid enough to be brought up.

Yes, Safe spaces are created to give us a break from real life but that doesn’t mean we start thinking safety is something we deserve only within them. That when a sexist incident happens in college everyone protests but when it happens outside we go, okay cool sucks to be us. (which is what’s happening right now, and which is also the paradox we are referring to).

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By: Bitchface http://www.nlsquirks.in/when-in-nags/#comment-50 Fri, 23 Sep 2016 20:18:55 +0000 http://www.nlsquirks.in/?p=1624#comment-50 Ok gr8. Congrats. Get where this is coming from. But, what is this paradox whereby in the institution itself you have rampant instances of sexism and going out is just a further aggravation of your safe space. Compare it to going out of your home and being in your home. Safe spaces exist where they are created, unfortunately. SO, what implication does this journalism have? Why are your interviews and surveys, etc. so inconclusive. If you’re putting in effort write something better 😀
For yourselves and everyone else than just reiterating the true facts which are not even exclusive to our own college.

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